Children’s over-use electronic products, especially playing game addiction, and watching a lot of oil pipe videos, have become a problem that has to face in family education at this stage.
Many parents around us and their children are common for the addiction of electronic products to fall in love with each other.
In our house, excessive use of electronic products is also a big problem that Ethan and Michael have faced.In order to help them get rid of their dependence on electronic products, I read books such as “Game Change the World” and “Want to Still”.I formulated some plans, successfully convinced them to get along with electronic products in harmony, so as to abandon their dependence on electronic products.
In this article, I want to combine my experience with the children to share my right Behavior Understanding, then I will introduce some useful tools, I hope it will be helpful to everyone.
When writing this article, I conducted an interview with Ethan and Michael on playing electric games.
I said:“Can you tell Dad, what is the most attractive place for Video Game?”
Ethan said:“It’s fun too.I can do something I can’T do in the real life.I can play with friend online event 200 miles away.It make me feel we are close and I will not feel alone.The game is interesting.You can do a lot of things that you can’t do in real life in the game.At the same time, I can play with friends even 200mm, which makes me feel close to them and never feel lonely.“” “
Michael went on to say:“Fun and Entertainment.Fun Challenges Inside.ONCE You Finish the Challenge You Feel Successful.
I asked:“Will you addit to video game?
Michael said:“NO, Becaue If I addit to it, it would be very bad and parents would be mad at me.And somenene ask me who was video game all the time, and I would be hard to a nswer.(No, because if ifWhen we are addicted to playing games, I will feel bad, my parents will be angry.Someone will ask me why I always play games, and I will feel difficult to answer this question.“” “
Ethan said:“No, I do not want to.I play Games all day, i learn nothing.But I study and play, I get more successful..But I generally learn, play a little bit, I will feel more successful.) “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “”
I asked:“What is the most important to you?”
Michael:“Eat Food, go to school.(Eat and go to school.)” “
Ethan said:“Family, Friends and Success.
I asked:“What’ s your undertnding of success?
Ethan explanation:“If you want to success, you have to work hard and standy.If you think nothing bad will have been in the future and you will just play video.Learn.If you thinkThere is nothing to worry about in the future, so you will keep playing games.“” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “” “
I said:“Will you play the game secretly? Why?”
Ethan said without hesitation:“No.Ifel I break the rules.Feel like what I’m doing is wrong.I have to be honest and faithful..I need honesty, trustworthy.) “”
The two of them are basically true.They only play two hours of games on Friday now, and they will not use computers or tablets to entertain other times.I did not cut off their connection with electronic products, but I just thought about some ways and let their self-discipline play a role.
As long as the method is proper, children can get along with electronic products in harmony.Just as Yin Jianli said in “Good Mom is better than a good teacher”:
If a child is unwilling to come out in the game for a long time, it becomes a pathological state, because the world outside the game makes him feel boring, unhappy or inferior.
If a child delays the future because of computer games, even if he lives in an era without computer games, there will be other things to pull him down.
I firmly believe that it is not the game itself, but the emptiness of the mind, or the lack of certain qualities.Those who have fallen in the game, even if there is no computer game, will have something else to make him unable to extricate himself.
“Good Mom is better than a good teacher”
This can be seen, Obsessed with the Internet and game addiction is not the fault of children, but from the complex psychological and educational issues behind them.
1.Excessive use of electronic products
In today’s society, electronic products, especially smartphones, have become an indispensable part of our lives.While the smartphone provides us with convenient life, it also makes us serious about it Behavior Essence
When you go out, you will be uncomfortable without your mobile phone.You have to watch your mobile phone when you walk, and you ca n’t do without your mobile phone when you eat.
In short, our hands will hold our mobile phones anytime, anywhere, and we will be stunned at a little time than ever.
A few data are shocking:
- In 2018, the time when Apple mobile phone users use their mobile phones per day 195 minutes, 20%of them use the average mobile phone time daily 270 minutes EssenceThe average number of mobile phones per day is 58 times Essence
- The latest survey of German data statistics Internet companies found that China uses mobile phones every day 3 hours It ranks second in the world (It is worth noting, 70%of Chinese dads with their children per day less than 1 hour.
I also glanced at my own mobile phone to use data.I used my mobile phone for 251 minutes today and turned on 128 times, which is much higher than the average in 2018.I never use my mobile phone to play games, nor is it addicted to the WeChat screen.I use WeChat to work most of them, but the frequency I use is really amazing.
These numbers are shocking, but the most terrible thing is that our adults not only indulge in their mobile phones, but also “infect” this bad habit.
A survey of 1,000 parents of infants 0 to 5 years old shows that the ratio of children’s use of smartphones is 80.4% EssenceMany of our parents will throw tablet computers, mobile phones and other electronic products to our children when they are young.The reason for more than half of the parents to let children play mobile phones is, “This is the best way to make them noisy or noisy.” Essence
2.Excessive use of electronic products will form behavior addiction
We spend a lot of time on electronic products, especially smartphones, which is not a big problem in itself.The problem is that we waste the time of “more than needed” in electronic products to entertain, and we slowly start to rely on electronic products, thereby having behavior addiction.
What is behavioral addiction?
Behaosy refers to a kind of behavior that people cannot resist a certain thing.This behavior can solve a certain psychological needs in the short term, and in the long run, it will cause serious damage EssenceBehaosy is destructive.They squeeze out the basic pursuit of work, reading, thinking, entertainment, interaction between people and people, personal hygiene, and other human pursuit.
The reason why smart phones can develop into behavior addiction is because we not only use it to work, but also do not get the high cabinet because of the freshness.We will move over time, and the time of use is getting longer and longerEssence
A person named Larry Rosen in the United States did an experiment.She designed an app to record the use of mobile phones.She downloaded this app to some volunteer college students’ mobile phones and tracked for three years to record the specific situation of their mobile phones.
The experimental result is that the average daily mobile phone time of volunteers in the first year is 220 minutes, Average a day 56 times In the third year, the average daily use of the mobile phone has been raised to the daily use 277 minutes At the same time, the average number of boot times has increased 77 times Essence
It can be seen that, as we use the use of electronic products, especially smartphones, for longer and longer, we will become more and more patient, and thereby forming behavioral addiction.
3.The harm of electronic product addiction
Electronic products are addicted to the hazards.To sum up, it can be divided into the following aspects.
First, the damage to the brain of electronic products is irreversible
Our brain (especially children) has a process of slow development.A relatively large factors affecting the development of the brain come from external stimuli.
The book “Parent’s Language” pointed out: Each of us is born with a 100 billion yuan of neurons.These neurons can be transformed into many different potential.However, these neurons need key nerve links to play a role.From birth to three years old, the brain will generate 700-1000 additional neuron links per second, and will also delete and reduce some neurons links that have not been used for a long time.
This book also pointed out that the language environment of parents is the necessary stimulating factor that determines the advantages, persistence and construction of other neuron circuits in a specific neuron circuit.Parent’s language satisfaction 3T principle, Right now Complex attention (tune in),, Talk more (Talk more) As well as Take turns talk (take turns) Essence
However, the screen language from electronic products does not meet the 3T principle.It cannot pay attention to children, communicate with children, let alone talk with children.
Recommended reading: “How to talk to children to determine children’s life-” Parent’s Language “
Therefore, the screen language not only cannot help the child’s brain development, but also causes great damage to the child’s brain development.The American Association of Children’s Sciences suggested that parents should not let their children come into contact with electronic products before they are three years old.
In order to study the impact of unqualified external stimuli on the brain, someone took a cat to do an experiment.The experimenters found a lot of kittens, and they were locked in the black room as soon as they were born.When they arrived at a specific time every day, half of the kitten was placed in a cage with only vertical stripes.; Put the other half of the kitten in a cage with only horizontal stripes.
After one or two months of training, put the kitten in real life and found that kittens often hit things.The kitten can’t see the three-dimensional things and will not avoid it.Due to the stimulus of the cat’s brain for a long time, it caused serious damage to the brain, which caused the brain to lose the ability to perceive the three-dimensional three-dimensional.
Unfortunately, electronic products are stimulated by two-dimensional pictures.These will cause great damage to the child’s brain.At the same time, this destruction ability is irreversible.
Second, it is easy to cause concentration to concentrate & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp;
When it comes to concentration, many parents may be proud that the concentration of children at home is okay.They can sit and watch TV for two to three hours or play tablet computers for two to three hours.
But in fact, sitting there and watching TV and concentration are two different concepts.This is actually two things that are completely different.When you are actively doing something, such as learning, you are exploring.But when you go to watch electronic products, cartoons, movies, you are accepted passively.
Our brain is essentially lazy.I am used to looking for simple answers and unwilling to think about it.Electronic products are destructive of concentration.Once the children are used to seeing something that keeps moving, then when he goes to contact with static objects such as building blocks, he will feel very boring.This causes the interest and concentration of children.
Microsoft’s Canadian Branch reported that in 2000, people’s average concentration time was 12 seconds, and in 2013, the average concentrated attention time was attenuated to 8 seconds.
Third, forced social networking is not conducive to cultivating correct values
When we still lived in Chicago last year, Ethan always complained to me, why don’t I buy him for Fortnite’s gaming films, because the boys of their school are playing, and boys playing Fortnite are particularly popular at school at school at schoolEssenceBecause he didn’t play this game, many classmates laughed at him.Although we did not let Ethan play Fortnite, he still learned some Fortnite dance with other children.
I think this is a kind Compulsive social EssenceSome parents are afraid that their children will not be accepted by the group, so as to give up their principles and let their children go to play various new games.Maybe they feel that getting the group’s identity can help children find real happiness.
In fact, this is a kind of pavilion without principles.Children will be short-lived.What about the best player to play games?Once the children enter the society, they will not be more lost by society, and they will even become more lost.
Compulsive social networking is not conducive to children cultivating the correct values. The conclusions they get may caters to their preferences as social standards, so as to socialize for social networking.In this way, they have lost the standard of personal values.The possible result is that children will learn to speak swear words, smoke, learn to disrespect others, and even learn to take drugs with other children.
Fourth, the lack of self-confidence and self-esteem
People have been pursuing a sense of personal value in their lives, whether they were childhood, or their adult stages of their father and mother.The consensus of psychologists is The sense of value is established by our contribution to the group and made the achievements that can be recognized by others. We can also build a similar value in the virtual world.For example, many people who play the game will be pursuing his fans.
“Thinking, fast and slow, this book tells us,
Human instinct is to like simple answers.If we can get simple results without effort, we will not pay more efforts to find more complicated results.
“Thinking, Quick and Slow”
If children can easily feel the “identity” and “group consciousness” they need in the virtual world, then they will not invest in the real society to find a real sense of value.
There is a big contrast between the virtual world and the real world.Once they enter the society, their virtual “value” will become very fragile, which will hit their self-confidence and even lose their self-esteem.
As a result, they will feel fear of real society and make it even more indulged in the Internet world.Imagine how many young people around us have abandoned and abandoned because of addiction to the Internet?
Fifth, it is easy to be misled by incorrect knowledge
A few days ago, my wife bought me a pair of Timberland shoes.Ethan and Michael were very excited when they saw it.I told me that Timberland had discrimination and we should not buy their shoes.The reason is that they saw a video on YouTube and made some speculative analysis of Timberland’s logo.
Obviously, the children have been misleaded by some unsatisfactory information.In order to eliminate their misunderstandings about Timberland, I found some articles to read with them.Later, we also found the open letter of Timberland CEO to gradually understand the misunderstanding of Timberland.
I explained their misunderstandings with the children.In the end, they also accepted the interpretation of the Timberland Logo on Youbube.
It can be seen that once the wrong knowledge enters the brain, completely eradicating will be a long-term process.
At the same time, some games and videos will also make children passively exposed to some violent and erotic pictures, which will cause irreversible impact on their immature minds.
Sixth, premature development
Children who often use electronic products are easy to contact knowledge that exceeds his age prematurely.
Still that principle, human instinct is lazy, we like simple answers.Once we can easily get the answer on the Internet, we will not spend more energy to explore in the real world.They feel boring about what his peers do.As a result, the childhood period is ended prematurely and entering the maturity period.
In addition to the above six o’clock, excessive use of electronic products will also deprive the children’s exercise time, which will cause the body to lack exercise and deprive sleeping time, which will cause the spirit of going to school during the day.Excessive use of electronic products can also make children anxious.Each time Michael watched the video for more than an hour, he would show impatience, and it was easy to say something that disrespected others.
4.4..Why is it addicted to gaming What’s more?
What are the physiological reasons for addiction?
Addiction is because this behavior can bring pleasure to our brain.This pleasure comes from a name Dopamine Material secretion.
Dopamine is a chemical that helps cells to transmit pulses, and a type of neurotripidal substance.This transmission substance is mainly responsible for the transmission of the lust, feeling, excitement and happiness of the brain.Smoking and drug use can increase the secretion of dopamine, making the addicts feel happy and excited, and have a feeling of desire to stop.
The author of “Want to Stop” tells an interesting experiment in the book.Researchers Olz and Milner inserted an electrode on the heads of a group of mice, stimulating the mouse’s brain with current to observe their reactions.
The experimental results found that most mice were afraid of electric shocks.Only one was very excited.Not only was it not afraid, but he enjoyed it and even took the initiative to pursue electric shock.In the end, the mouse did not eat or drink, and enjoys an electric shock endlessly until he died.
The researchers were very confused about this.They took out the electrodes from the mouse’s brain and found that the probe of the electrode was bent, and they just came into contact with the rat’s diaphragm.This diaphragm is the “pleasure center” of mice.When this part is stimulated, the mouse will have pleasure.
Later, another researcher Robert Heath migrated the experiment to the human body.He inserted the probe into the pleasure center of a lady with depression.As a result, the lady said that her first time in her life was the first time in her life.Feel happiness.But as soon as the researchers removed the electrode, the lady’s smile disappeared.Later, she was obsessed with that feeling and tried everything to implant the probe.Like the mouse, people are addicted to this pleasure.
Therefore, the physiological cause of behavioral addiction is the pleasure of the brain.This power of pursuing pleasure may allow us to embark on the wrong path.If it does not add normative, it is terrible like drug addiction.
When we are actively doing something, our brain will also secrete dopamine.So why do we seek external stimuli to get more dopamine?
A large number of studies show that The root cause of addictive psychology comes from pain Essence
Sometimes, in order to avoid our psychological pain and become a slave to medicine or behavior.For example, if we feel lonely, we may invest in social online games; when we feel unsafe, we may put in some violent games to find the so-called hero.
A study published in the “Peerj” journal published in the University of Kadif to the United Kingdom believes that playing games for a long time may be the replacement activity of people in unhappy, not really addicted.Children who love to play games may just want to temporarily evade unhappiness in real life.
In addition to children, the same is true of adults.After investigating 2,316 online game players over the age of 2316, they did not find any clinical issues.Further analysis shows that people who play online games for a long time are more unhappy about other fields in life, such as relationships or occupations.
5.How to eliminate game addiction?
The addiction to the game is not the fault of children.Children are too dependent on electronic products, and most of them are derived from our parents.
Yesterday I saw a family who bought it in the mall, and my mother was picking clothes.Dad had been looking down at the phone, and the son jumped around in front of him, and then went to play with his mother’s clothes.Later, in order to make the child quiet, Dad took out another mobile phone from his pocket to play for him.The last two men lowered their heads and quietly.
This kind of thing is very common around us, and I have experienced similar things myself.When the children are noisy, throwing them an iPad is often the most effective way to stop them.In this way, they will rely on electronic products.
In the early stages of contacting electronic products, children are actually not so dependent on electronic products.Playing electronic products is just an alternative activity that can’t be idle.
I remember when I snatched the iPad from Ethan, he would ask me, “What am I doing?” If I promise to take him to the park to play or ride a bicycle, he will immediately put down the iPad in his hand and play outside to play outsideAt that time, he will not remember to go back to play iPad.
We need to arrange enough things for your children.Children are often energetic and they can’t get idle.The growth period is very active, and they are curious about the world.
Therefore, we have to arrange enough extra-curricular activities for children.Once the children get enough happiness in the real society, they will not indulge in electronic products.
remember, Most of the addiction comes from pain. The reason why children are caught in the virtual world are not unable to extricate themselves because they can get the happiness that the real world cannot get in the real world in the virtual world.
- When the child is still young, what they need is not simple instructions, but to accompany EssenceIt is difficult for them to experience the happiness of things itself, but they can feel the accompanying parents, the praise of the parents, and the signal of the parents’ love.These are all things that can help them secrete dopamine, so that they can experience happiness in insisting on doing one thing.
- When children have independent consciousness, they can restrain their behavior is their self-esteem. Self-esteem will divide our behavior that is difficult to pass.Once we cross this boundary, we will blame ourselves and pull us back.So we need to help children improve their self-esteem.We have to encourage him and praise him, and let them appreciate our value.At the same time, we need to remind children to be a person they like.Once they form a stable values, they have the standard for establishing self-esteem.
Recently, I read the book “Mind Intelligence”.The book mentioned that only if we can feel the happiness of things itself can we really put in this matter and do this.
In the long run, we need to cultivate children’s hobbies, guide children to explore nature, encourage them to read, lead them to participate in physical exercise EssenceOnce they find happiness from the transaction itself, they will be very happy.Therefore, they will not rely too much to rely on electronic products.
6.How to change the behavior addiction that the child has formed Intersection
Change children’s addiction is much more difficult than preventing them from being addicted.The method is similar to the way to prevent behavior addiction, but we need to be more patient and spend more time to accompany.
Here, I want to share with you the story I help Ethan and Michael get rid of electrical dependence.
- Before changing: Ethan and Michae will try to play iPad or Nintendo Switch when school.Michael will go to his room with a uncommon mobile phone, and secretly hide my phone.Ethan will delay writing homework because of playing games, delaying practicing piano.
- After the change: The children only play two hours of games on Friday every week, and we go to a movie together on Saturday.Ethan only uses electronic products to learn, and I have never found that he has used electronic products to play games.Each of them used to have an iPad.After moving, I didn’t know where the iPad went, and they didn’t ask us to live.Nintendo Switch is placed in the basement for a long time, and they will only play on Friday.
The methods we take are basically divided into the following steps:
- Communicate with the same reason and reach a common vision with your children.
Ethan and Michael have always liked to chat with me, and we have a wide range of chats.But I rarely talk to them about the content of the game, because I don’t want children to get a sense of recognition about the game from me.My attitude towards playing games has always been unsuitable, but not opposed.
However, I will intentionally guide and cultivate them to become an ideal person.Ethan wants to be a game designer, Michael wants to be a scientist.No matter how resolute they are, as long as they speak, the children and I have the basis of reaching a common vision.
The children and I have reached a total of four common visions.
The first vision we achieved was: The ideal efforts need to be achieved until you need to achieve it, otherwise Dream will always be a DREAM.
In order to deepen their understanding of this vision, I wrote a story.
On the seven-year -old birthday, Xiaoming told his parents that his ideal was to be a Video Game Designer.His parents were very happy to encourage him to learn painting, write small stories, and learn programming.But Xiao Ming later fell in love with playing games and did not work hard for his Dream.On Xiaoming’s eight-year birthday, Dad asked him: “Xiaoming, do you remember your Dream?” Xiaoming said: “Of course, be a video game designer.” But Xiao Ming still did not work hard.On his ten-year -old birthday, Dad asked again, “Xiao Ming, what is your Dream?” Xiaoming replied: “LOOKS LIKE Be Video Game Designer.” But then Xiao Ming still did not work hard for Dream.On his twelve birthday, Dad asked again, “Xiaoming, do you remember that you used to be a Video Game Designer?” Xiaoming said: “Really? Ieven can’t remember.” Xiao Ming was still obsessed with games.Great yourself.On the fifteenth birthday of Xiaoming, Dad asked, “Xiaoming, do you still have Dream?” Xiaoming said: “Dream? What hells that mean?Efforts, Dream is only a Dream, NEVER COME TRUE.
I told them at least five times with them.At the beginning, they didn’t feel much.Later, Ethan secretly played the game, and I criticized him.He also asked me to tell him again.
After this repeated repeated multiple times, his control has improved a lot.Just as he said in my interview with Ethan, he was worried about playing games too much, and his dream could not be realized.
The second vision we achieved is: Excessive playing games is not good for achieving your own ideals.Video Game Designer.
The third vision we reached is : Allow to play games appropriately.
The fourth vision we reached…: Playing the game for too long, people are easy to be anxious and emotionally out of control.
Every time Michael watched the iPad video for more than an hour, he would perform anxious, spoken impatient, and easily lost his temper to us.I will record his status with my phone and wait for him to stabilize his emotions.I showed it to him and asked him that he liked himself or not.He said, “Don’t like it.” I said, “You don’t like this kind of yourself, how can others like it? Do you want to be an unpopular child?” They would say, “Don’t want.”
This kind of conversation does not necessarily have an immediate effect, but for a long time, the children still care about it.In fact, this is also helping them to build their own self-esteem system.
The common vision is the basis for us to formulate rules with children EssenceSome parents, when the children make mistakes, always tell the children, don’t you know that it is right?Don’t you know basic common sense?Why do you want to do this?Before we reached a common vision, it was our right thing to say, because we did not tell them clearly, they did not know what was right and what was wrong.
- Formulate rules
I allowed them to play the game appropriately, and I also bought them the Just Dance 2019 gaming film.I think it is understandable for children to play games appropriately, and they also need entertainment.This is also one of the common visions we have reached.
We made an appointment on Friday that it was Tech Friday, and that said that when they returned home from school, they could play games until dinner.Moms and dads absolutely supported.Saturday night is Movie Saturday Night, and parents and children watch a movie together.
- Take an example, put down the phone yourself first
Parents are the best teachers of their children.They want children to put down the game.Our adults must put down their mobile phones first.I delete all the games in the mobile phone in front of my child, and strictly restrict the time when I entertain my mobile phone.In order to change the game addiction, I must refuse to be a bow head first.
- Change the child where the child is located
The story of Meng Mu’s three movements also illustrates the importance of the environment.If the TV, computers, and tablet are everywhere, children can easily be attracted by these things.
To create a good environment, we put all entertainment equipment in the basement.Upstairs, there are no electronic products elsewhere except my office.After we changed the environment, the child’s concentration was much better, and basically did not violate the agreement to go to the basement to play games.
- Let the children understand the disadvantages of excessive playing games from the heart, and at the same time let him influence others
I suggest that Ethan persuades friends around you not to indulge in the game.He really wrote a letter to his friends saying that playing games is not good for his health, it is easy to develop bad habits, easy to be anxious, and easy to get out of control.Ethan suggested that he should not play games and read more.
Self-discipline comes from strong self-esteem.Once the children say these ways themselves, they can’t stop.Especially when children persuade their friends, they don’t make sense to do it.
- Arrange more extracurricular activities to make them feel happy from the real world
Children’s desire for happiness and happiness is stronger than anyone else.We can’t ask them to sit there honestly in a daze, they need to do anything at any time.
We have added many extracurricular activities for children’s hobbies.Ethan and Michael both joined Boy Scout, and their extra-curricular activities are much rich.We will also organize a group to camp this weekend.
At the beginning, they especially looked forward to the Tech Friday on Friday, and now even on Friday, they are not so excited about playing games.So far, at least two Fridays will choose to go to the park with their neighbors and take the initiative to give up Tech Friday.
- Increase their reading intensity
We consciously increase the number of children’s reading.We will go to the library once or twice a week.I also study together.In the process of getting along with the children, I also felt the joy of things itself.Once I enjoy this process, they will naturally be infected.
Now Michael will read books very seriously as soon as you arrive at the library.His mother was crying by the child’s serious movement.Many children next to him are playing toys, and it has not affected him at all.
I think he should find his own happiness at that time.At the same time, we set Monday night to read monday night.Parents and children have to take turns to read for everyone.Every night we will also tell you stories to everyone, so that we can feel the happiness from reading.
- More efficient companionship
I arranged more time to accompany the children.In order not to delay my own work, I read some time management books to improve my work efficiency.At the same time, I also accompany them more effectively.
This is the story of me and I conquer the addiction of electronic products with the children.In the past, my two children really liked watching TV and playing games.I hide the iPad, and they can all be secretly found.And now they basically do not take the initiative to play electronic products.
Throughout this process, it is not so much that children are changing as our parents are changing.
When I don’t know how to help the children, I choose to read a book.
- I read the book “Game Change the World”, which made me understand how the game is addicted to people step by step.
- I read the book “Want to Stop” again, and I understood the physiology and psychological foundation of adding to the game.
- I also read books and other books such as “Innocence and Transcendence”, “The Meaning of Living Life”, and “Method of Happiness”.I understand the inner needs of children.
Once I went back to the original point around a large circle, I found that the way I used to deal with children’s electronic products was so funny.I couldn’t get rid of my mobile phone, but I was asking the children to do it myself.What happened.
It turned out that only our parents first put down electronic products can children get rid of electronic products.
7.The attitude of treating electronic products corrected
With the development of technology, electronic products have been fully integrated into the children’s teaching system.Teachers need to teach through computers.Many students’ family homework is done through the Internet.At the same time, some of the children’s Project also need to find materials through the Internet.
Ethan was in the fourth grade this year, and the school gave him a Chromebook.This Chromebook has become the same as a stationery as a pencil box.
Children’s lives are inseparable from electronic products.Therefore, how to help children get along with electronic products is a topic we have to face. It is not advisable to disconnect, because we cannot waste food.As the author of “Good Mom is better than a good teacher”, Yin Jianli said.
If a child is unwilling to come out in the game for a long time, it becomes a pathological state, because the world outside the game makes him feel boring, unhappy or inferior.
If a child delays the future because of computer games, even if he lives in the era of no computer, there will be other things to pull him down.
I firmly believe that it is not the game itself, but the emptiness of the mind, or the lack of certain qualities.
Those who have fallen in the game, even if there is no computer game, will have something else to make him unable to extricate himself.
Yin Jianli
The biggest misunderstanding of our traditional education is to over-protect children.
When I was young, my mother was afraid that my drowning would make me farther away from the water.The problem is that I have n’t exposed to water, and I have n’t swim yet.
Because my mother was afraid that I was addicted to watching novels, I did not let me read extra-curricular readings from an early age, so that I now discover the beauty of reading.If we do not face difficulties and blindly avoid difficulties, then we will never learn how to go to customer service difficulties.
We should give children freedom and let them face electronic products. We have to give them a chance to play games.Children have a strong curiosity.The less you don’t let him play, the more interested them.
I will occasionally encourage children to play new games, because I think they also need entertainment, and their brains need to rest.If your parents can’t understand, please open your mobile phone time to see if you spend a lot of time on your mobile entertainment one day.
Of course, parents must strictly manage the content of the game, and the games that children play must be reviewed by their parents.Porn and violent games must not make children contact.
Self-discipline comes from strong self-esteem EssenceOnly when we cultivate children’s self-esteem can we help them improve their ability to resist temptation.
For example, I interviewed Michael earlier and asked if he would indulge in the game.He told me that he wouldn’t.His resolute originated from his heart that it was bad to indulge the game from the heart.He even thought that he couldn’t say that he would look down on him because he would play too much about playing games.In fact, this is self-worth, or self-esteem.Once the children have established a good self-esteem, they have the standard of restricting their behavior.
We can encourage children to learn more with electronic products. Download some learning software for them.Once they are used to learning with a computer, the first reaction will not be played by the computer next time.
For example, Michael likes to use Riz-Kids to read books.Through the use of a period of time, his reading level has indeed improved a lot.Ethan and Michael also use Khan Academy to learn mathematics.
8.Summary
In this article, I shared with you that our family’s experience in controlling game addiction.At the same time, I tried to analyze the ins and outs of behavior addiction, and shared some practical methods and tools.
My point of view is: electronic products are addicted, not children’s fault.To help children not indulge in video games, we need to start from ourselves.
- First of all, we must refuse to be a bowing party and try our best to be the role model of children;
- Second, we must help children build strong self-esteem and build their defense system;
- Finally, we need to help children get happiness from real life, such as reading, sports activities, and exploring nature.
As long as we do these three points, I believe that our children can get along with electronic products, games, and more videos.
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